2/11/2010

A New Roommate

For the first part of this semester I didn't have a roommate. I was actually hoping not to have one at all. But just a couple minutes ago, my RA (residential assistant) knocked on my door and handed me a list of names. They are consolidating rooms and all the people without roommates are having to choose one. So I've been apprehensive and probably a little closed minded about it. Miss K is constantly reminding me not to jump to conclusions. These conclusions come from last semester when I had a terrible roommate.

Last semester I had a young woman who was 17 years old, first time away from home. Now I'm 22 years old, I do not have to live on campus but I choose to because it is paid for by my grandfather. Now I don't want to say that our differences were brought on by our ages because Miss K is younger than I am and we are best friends. I really cannot tell you what made us so different. However, she was not a very clean person, she made messes and just left them there, shoved the coffee table into the entertainment center and arranged the living room so no one could walk around. On top of that, she was one of those people that would be really nice to you to your face but talk bad about you to your friends.

I grew tired of having to tell her to clean up after herself and all of that. I am not here to be someone's mom. Because of her false niceties the room was infested with negativity and I grew to be a fairly negative person. I gave up on trying to keep the negativity at bay because it was just always there and there was nothing I could do about it unless I just sat around my room and constantly expended energy to keep the room negativity free.

So because of the experience I had last semester I was really hoping if I just minded my own business and didn't remind my RA that I don't have a roommate no one would be assigned to me. But after almost a month of being back at school they have decided not to ignore all of us without roommates. I called the residential living office and spoke to them about the situation. They kind of made me feel a little better about the situation but I am still a little nervous. They assured me I probably won't have to move out of my room since I've been here since last semester. However, they are going to assign someone to me and since I don't know anyone on the list I won't get to know them until they move in. This makes me nervous because I don't know what kind of person this girl will be. I don't know if we'll even be compatible at all. But I trust in the God and Goddess and I know they will put someone in here that I can live with. So fingers crossed ... I hope she's nice and accepting ...

3 comments:

Sarita Rucker said...

Good luck!

I go to a commuter university, so I've never experienced dorm rooms myself. Maybe that's a good thing...?

Dirgesinger said...

Hello!
I know Your situation. When I was at the university, I had two roommates, and three more in the twin room (so three of us were in the same room). First year was a horror - and I could not do anything about it because the trouble girl's boyfreind was in the college council so... but the following years were lucky and my friendships I got to have there last still up to this day. We are attending each of us's marriage ceremonies and such. I hopw You will have luck!!!

Mother's Moon's Message said...

keep a positive outlook, who knows this could be a very rewarding experience...blessings to you